i’ve been torn between making this a positive post and writing about how i really feel. in lou of going all negative nelly on you and/or avoiding how i’ve really been feeling, i’m compromising in the hopes that you’ll come back again. here’s the thing. lately, i’ve been…


the source of my discouragement comes from a handful of things, but i’ve plucked out the one that seems to stand out amongst the crowd. and surprisingly? or perhaps not, my source of discouragement stems from : inspiration overload.

*  *  *  *  *

isn’t the internet an amazing tool? i would have KILLED to have all this information literally at my fingertips when i was in school. think how EASY writing reports would have been, no lugging around those blue encyclopedias {you know you know what i’m talkin’ about!}…my arms wouldn’t have looked quite as toned had i had the internet though :0)

i don’t write school reports now, but i do look to the internet for inspiration, creative ideas, posing for photography, the latest DIY etc. i’m sure you’re all on pinterest, or follow other blogs, or facebook pages with pretty spreads…i know i do. usually, i look to these sites and individuals for inspiration. for motivation. for encouragement. but lately? lately, instead of being inspired by all these creative sources, i find myself feeling discouraged. not necessarily comparing myself to these people {bloggers/photographers/moms}, but if i’m honest, i kind of am.

i find myself wondering how they do it all, how they seem to have all their sh*t together when i don’t, how they can even make TIME for projects much less blog about them, how they get a business plan together and run it smoothly when i can’t even put together a coherent meal plan for the week, how they seem to be awesome moms, awesome business women {or men}, and awesome wives. all. at. the. same. time. awesome. awesome. awesome. and pretty soon i go from feeling discouraged to feeling inadequate. ugh.

{wow, don’t i sound like a bundle of joy!}

to combat this inadequacy and feelings of discouragement, the internet and i are taking a break. to see other *people*, other sources of creativity. like perhaps, uh, myself? like the good old days. i’m going old school yo. i’m busting out my sketch book more and jotting down my ideas more and doing projects more. and while i’m grateful for the inspiration i can draw from online, right now i need to draw from everything around me. in the real world.

yes, that’s it. less worldwide web and more. real. world.

*  *  *  *  *

my feelings of discouragement got me thinking about my blog, and i feel compelled to point out that i’m not perfect {it’s feels presumptuous to say that, but how else to word it?…just know i’m not!}, and i’m not naive enough to think these bloggers/photographers/moms i mentioned above truly have it all together. because no. one. does. read that again.

no. one. does.

not me, not you, not that gal/guy down the street. sometimes though when reading blogs and facebook pages and websites, it’s easy to think *wow, they really do have it all pulled together…what the heck am I doing??*

here’s the thing…i don’t want anyone who reads THIS blog. MY blog. to ever. EVER. think that i have it all together. i don’t ever want anyone to read my blog and feel discouraged because it appears that i’ve got everything pulled together and suddenly you feel like you don’t. because guess what?

i’m just a normal mama of 3 crazy kids, who currently has 3 loads of laundry that have been waiting to be folded for 2 days sitting on the guest bed, and dishes in the sink because i chose a donut and coffee outing this morning instead. a mama who loves doing project play with her boys, but spends 1/2 the time telling them what they CAN’T do {you should see the outtakes…that’s a post all on it’s own!} i just don’t show you this side of me because laundry doesn’t make me happy. neither do dirty dishes or sweeping my floors or cleaning my bathrooms. just know that i do ALL that stuff. that, though i love my kids, sometimes they drive me crazy. and sometimes, i don’t fold my laundry as quickly as i should.

i’ve been feeling so discouraged, i guess i was just getting worried that my blog might give that same feeling of discouragement to others. to you. and that’s not what i want. nobody deserves to feel discouraged. we are all unique. we all have our own lives. our own ways of getting things accomplished. our own list of priorities. of the things that matter most to us. in our own ways, we are all awesome.

i want to encourage our awesomeness. inspire it. find joy in it. that’s what i want my blog to be…

…a joy.




modern cloth diapering » lifeasyouliveit.com - […] heck! it sounded do-able. do-able for even a person like myself who so obviously sucks at doing laundry. i left that store thinking : i can DO this. WE can do […]

stacey - you’re so very welcome! i received such a big response to this post {for me!} it’s nice to know we aren’t the only one’s that feel this way! xo

Dawn - I needed this….thank you :o)

terri zollinger - i couldn’t have said it better 😉
rock that creativity !!
cheers to the real world and FUN 😉

Deborah Cornwell - Love love LOVE your post and I couldn’t agree more….the trouble with social media is that we only post the “perfect” moments, so that’s all anyone else sees….keeping up with the Joneses has morphed into feeling like everyone else is doing more, living better, having more fun, and being better moms, professionals, wives and friends than we could ever hope to be. The problem is that it isn’t the truth….I agree with Lisa that your honesty and ability to enjoy the good times without pretending the mundane don’t exist make you an awesome friend and role model! Your posts are never discouraging….only funny, realistic, and encouraging! I miss you, girl!

Elizabeth - It’s so difficult to appreciate what we are when we keep looking at what we aren’t. I sure struggle with it. You and those kids sure bring me a lot of joy. Being a blessing is something you do well and you probably didn’t even know it.

Lisa wagner - That is the image those blogs are presenting! Everyone has their stuff, their insecurities and struggles. Some arnt comfortable being vulnerable and sharing! You only get a ‘snapshot’ into a second of their world not their everyday reality! I love that you are real….that is why i treasure our friendship so much! The more i am transparent the more i crave that in relationships! Give me hard and real any day! i love the ‘real’ you (i know i would never get along with the perfect stac!!!!) xoxo lisa

Kama - I could just hug you for writing this!!

Your Mama - Wow, Stac, you hit the nail right on top of the head! I do believe that we all feel that same way. Our minds get clogged down with everything that is out there and then our creativity is put on hold. I love the idea of you and your sketchbook! Also, if that laundry is still on the bed (my bed) in a few week, I will be happy to fold it for you with the help of three little helpers!!! Love ya

Emily - Stac: what a beautiful, honest blog. It is so true too! I think we all {at some point} look at the facebook/pinterest/instagram world and think “why can’t my life be like that?”. I’ve been there..wondering why my abs don’t look all 6 packy when I get done working out or why when I try a pinterest hairstyle …it looks like my cat got a hold of my hair. lol. It is nice to know that other people have these same thoughts! And I do the same thing when I feel discouraged by the internet..I stay away from it. I go for a walk or take a moment to think about how truly blessed I am..just by being me! And …I too have LOADS of unfolded clothes on my spare bedroom bed! Here’s to choosing *fun* over laundry!love you

Your email is never published or shared. Required fields are marked *